Marrette

 
 

From Grave to Cradle to Now

The Health Care Professional Edition

 


Detailed Table of Contents

 

Preface 9

Acknowledgement 11

Introduction to the Health Care Professional Edition 15

 

Grave 19

0 : H 12:10 PM – The Call 20

1 : H 1:00 PM – Hospital Number 1 – St. Joseph’s 20

2 : H 2:40 PM – Ambulance 21

3 : H 3:00 PM – Hospital Number 2 – St. Michael’s 22

9 : H 9:30 PM – Assisting Surgeon’s Describes Drew’s Situation 22

10 : H 9: 45 PM - The Quiet Room & Shifts 23

11 : H 10:45 PM - Sitting with Drew 24

 

Chronology: by Facebook and Journal 27

24 : H Facebook Posting # 1 Coma 27

24 : H Minor update 31

47 : H Movement? 31

74 : H Full-to-brimming with love, reading, boom box 34

94 : H Rachel and I return home, briefly, for the first time 35

102 : H Thumbs up! 36

5 : Days Infection 37

11 : D Drew's progress – Neil is exhausted & has the flu; tapping out a beat 38

13 : D Post surgery update #2 Rachel “joins” medical team 39

15 : D First words “Drew Powell” 40

15 : D I love you." Leaf Buds, Rub, Ambient Music, Amazing/Miracle 40

16 : D Drew waves, sits up! Pretty good, all things considered Dr. doesn’t expect him to be there 41

16 : D Drew sees & waves, “higher neural function school”, higher motor skills signalling - Word is “party” 42

19 : D Teleported to Gold Cost; age of parents; parallel processing 44

22 : D Drew reads, zombie walk, 46

28 : D Smoking 46

1 : M 1 : D Police, 50% cardio vascular, 20% of their muscle mass and 10% of their bone density; Drew on the floor 49

1 : M 5 : D 2, 4, 24, 48 Vision; First time sees damage in a mirror 49

1 : M 6 : D Mother’s Day – From My Journal - Meltdown 51

1 : M 8 : D Meditations 51

1 : M 14 : D Off medications, Roommates, “Hope” stone 53

1 : M 15 : D Drew’s first posting 54

1 : M 18 : D Hospital #3 First time outside in 49 days 54

1 : M 20 : D Burning Man Thighs 55

1 : M 23 : D Walk in the woods, bone plate, arggh 55

2 : M 3 : D Bridgepoint - Hospital #4 Visiting, Rehabilitation 57

2 : M 10 : D Cluck Grunt and Low; first night out 58

3 : M 20 : D Day 111 Drew has been discharged from the hospital! Webbnet party at the Docks 59

4 : M 27 : D DJd Cherry Beach today 60

4 : M 16 : D Drew DJd the Harvest Festival north of Huntsville 60

5 : M 23 : D September 28 - Journal Therapy Routine 62

6 : M Journal 65

5 : M + Meetings and Dialogues with Drew’s Doctors, Bridgepoint Rehabilitation Hospital Therapists and His Psychotherapist 66

6 : M 2 : D Seeking photographs for reconstructive surgery 69

8 : M 12 : D Drew has surgery 69

9 : M 3 : D Funeral of great aunt 69

17 : M 10 : D Return to Work 70

20 : M 16 : D Surgery Successful 70

22 : M 11 : D Drew’s Recovery & Return to Work is Validated! 70

23 : M 19 : D Evening Surgery 71

23 : M 20 : D Surgeon’s report 72

23 : M 22 : D Surgery over 73

23 : M 22 : D Irregularities and the Sacks of Dread 73

2 : Y 9 : M 20 : D Sixth surgery 76

2 : Y 10 : M 4 : D Surgery completed 77

3 : Y 8 : M Another Sabbatical 79

 

Notes to Nurses, Doctors and Other Health Care Providers 83

Shock 84

Power and powerlessness 85

Professional knowledge and expertise versus ignorance, superstition and non-medically sanctioned treatments 85

Psychological distancing 85

Healers 86

Being useful 87

Blood harmony and using the shared past 87

Religious perspectives - the unexplainable 90

Shifts away 90

Humour 91

Thank you 92

 

The Hospital System – Our Experience 93

Your loved one is a person 94

Courtesy, respect and warmth 95

Thank you motivates – good manners with a purpose 95

Track treatment details in a Log or Journal and speak up 96

The mirror test 97

Rules 98

 

Your Caregiver Team 99

You as motivator, you as guide 100

Earthquake struck warehouse 102

Applying blood harmony 103

Imitate the professionals – "Where are you?" 105

Read and re-read to them 105

No negative talk 105

Inform yourself 106

Bizarre behaviour 106

Critical Care - the routine practicalities 107

Non-Critical Care - the routine practicalities 110

Patient’s employer 112

Insurers 113

 

Men and Fathers – Joining the OAJS 115

Fight, flight or freeze 117

Emotions: Immediate/Subsequent Experience/Discuss 118

Stress 119

Roles and Tasks 122

Differing experience and behaviour: male/female, parent, sibling, friend 122

Fathers’ responsibility for the long-term 124

Your experience will change you for the better—if you let it 128

Listen to the patient 128

Advice to fathers with injured sons.... 132

This can’t be happening! 133

 

Major Lessons 135

Survival is not a question 135

Never abdicate your responsibility to the patient 136

Assume that patients listen at all times 136

Do for others 137

Accept help 138

Friends do; they don’t wait to be asked 138

Affirm the patient and caregivers 140

Reliving life’s stages 140

Meltdowns 141

Losing friends 141

Symbol, role model, accompanyists 142

Unexpected experiences 143

Miracles 144

Start your preparation now 144

Those without caregiving family or friends 145

 

The New Normal 147

 

Drew Writes 149

Family 151

Friends 152

Life 153

You 154

 

Postscript Us, We and W5 155

 

Appendices 161

To Do List Handout For Family 161

To Do List handout For Friends, Neighbors and Community 167

Official letter from the hospital 169

Resources for Families 171


 

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